I love “My Best Friends Wedding” as you may already know I am a massive fan of Julia Roberts aka Jules in my world. Yet it is quite a strange film in terms of the ending really isnt what you would expect from Hollywood but is it more realistic? In my world yes it is. Its heartbreaking at times but thats life isn’t it. I have probably watched this film more times that people can actually imagine. Quite a few months ago I eventually got round to see “Made of Honor” which I had heard was like MBFW but the other way round. I however have to totally disagree with that and this post will end up in a rant that men always win no matter what the situation is.
Made and released more than 10 years apart really shows the direction in which romantic comedies aka rom-coms have come over the years. That direction is down. Don’t get me wrong some have been quite good like “Forgetting Sarah Marshall” and “(500) Days of Summer”. But way exactly have I enjoyed these? They have more realistic moments in them and manage to connect to the audience in different ways. Especially (500) Days of Summer it is so realistic and good how throughout the film it reminds us it is not a love story it is a story about love, and showing how different your expectations are in comparison to what reality is.
My Best Friends Wedding (1997) you can read the review I wrote here.
The main plot for this film is that Julianne and Michael have been friends for a long time. Julianne is a food critic and Michael is a sports writer which means they both travel a lot and therefore go quite a while without seeing each other at times. But when Michael talks to Julianne and informs her that she is getting married and wants her to fly in the next day for the full weekend wedding. This is when Julianne realises that she is in love with Michael and has been for years but was too scared to admit it to herself. Hence then trying to split them up and stop the wedding her friend George (who is gay but they pretend to be engaged) coming out with a great quote “It’s amazing the clarity which comes with psychotic jealously”. But in the end Julianne realises Michael wants Kimmy and not her. She even lends them, Michael and her’s song for there first wedding dance. Quite a sad ending from the viewpoint of Julianne she had lost her friend and was alone.
Made of Honor (2008) you can read the review I wrote here.
The main plot in this film is that Tom who is a major womanizer who never has a relationship and lives his life with one night stands, his best friend is Hannah. They had never been together hence being able to be friends. When Hannah goes away on a business trip to Scotland Tom realises that his life does not work without her in it, and the time difference makes calling her very difficult. He then puts it together that he is in love with her and plans to tell her this on her return to the USA. However it does not go to Tom’s plan when Hannah announces that she is engaged to a Scottish man and going to marry him in Scotland and move there. Tom becomes her maid of honor and tries to figure out how to win her back. This included a lot of competing with Colin trying to show he is the better man. Hannah does not marry Colin and does eventually end up with Tom.
What annoys me?
Well the main thing that really annoys me after these two films have been compared in the past and it has been stated that “Made of Honor” was like “My Best Friends Wedding” but the other way round. However I totally disagree with that, it only would have been the other way round if Tom had ended up alone like he pretty much deserved to be. He was a typical man who decided that he was in love with his best friend once she was happy with someone else. He then decided that he just had to have her and wanted to change his womanizing ways. I suppose Michael in My Best Friends Wedding showed a lot of jealously when he thought Julianne was engaged to George which was also an annoyance when he was days away from marrying Kimmy. Are men really that self centred that they want it all but do not want the women in there life to be happy if it is not with them? Maybe I am being very cynical and totally over thinking all of this but I am basing a lot of this on my personal experiences as well.
Can a man and woman really be just friends?
My personal answer to this question is yes and will always be yes. I have quite a few close male friends who have always been my friends and will always be just that never anything more than that. Hollywood seems to tell us that you cannot really be just friends as when one of the friends is very serious with someone else thats it you have to have them. Even though you didnt want them for the previous 10+ years and so on. I guess its another way Hollywood tries to romance situations by saying that the perfect person for you could be by your side all the time and you don’t even realise it.
Maybe it is some strange momentary jealously thing were you don’t want to be alone in the sense of your friend leaving you. As once they get serious and married with someone you aren’t going to see them as much as you do at the moment. You feel like your losing them or something. But would making them leave someone else for you really be a good start to actually being together as a couple. I very much doubt it.
I just found “My Best Friends Wedding” to be more like something that would happen in real life. Especially when George explains to Julianne that she will let him go and tell him to be happy because thats just how everything goes. I really do believe that is what would have happened. Obviously she does try to be with him and the wedding is cancelled for a few hours until she confesses that it was all her fault. It may sound pretty bad but I really could imagine doing something silly like that.
So what do you make of men wanting to have it all?
Women not knowing what they want?
Do you prefer one of these films to the other?